i dont think i love him because he is not my type, absolutely not. he is not the one that im looking for to be my boyfriend. we are just friends but i dont know why i want to see him all the time and everytime when we meet i feel like time is flying. i dont want him to leave, i want to have him around me, even though all we do is just talking or doing nothing. this feeling is growing stronger and stronger and its killing me coz it makes me think that i am falling in love with my friend but i know i am not. i dont feel like being his girlfriend yet i want to be close to him. sometimes when i am alone i think this is so stupid and i need to get rid of this feeeling but when we meet each other, thing goes different. i feel like i am addicted to him already. what is happening to me??

maybe you're just bored that's y u love hanging out with him or maybe he's ur best friend so you just act like that in front of him. But you're addicted to him? I'm not addicted to my best friends that much. I love hanging out with them but I don't miss them like you do to your friend. Maybe you're having a mixed feeling

i think you like him - but you are in denial. why dónt you find out if his feeling is the same like you?

i know he feels the same way...but everytime when he tried to show me his feelings, i would ignore him and act like i dont care or i dont like him. although i am more than willing to do anything for him without his asking, i never flirt with him, i even act like a boy in front of him to hide my feelings .i am afraid to get in a romantic relationship with him coz i know i will hurt him..to be honest, i always think he is not my cup of tea...i am arrogant, high-demanded, and selfish. how could that be love? i am so confused with my feelings...i am going crazy

I think u like him but not in love w/ him yet. Why don't u just let things happen naturally?? whenever u or him ready, then go out w/ each other... otherwise just still be friends. Dont rush in relationship, maybe ur feeling rite now is just a lil and will soon be gone, hang out w/ him more and wait til whenever ur heart is willing to accept him. Just Dont Rush. Good luck

faraway, it's the first stage of falling in love: denial stage.

goodluck sis.

Thanks everyone for your replies! I really appreciate your help on this!
In fact i am not rushing things. at first i thought i was in love with him. i still remember the night when he decided to move back to his family in another city, i had cried for the whole night. I was so miserable back then. But for some reasons he came back here and i have been in this situation for almost a year. nothing had happended. im kinda tired of being like this and i know i am confusing him too because of my weird signals..but i just couldn't control it

that is sweet that you're realizing this....to be honest i think you do like this guy, which is fine since he feel the same way toward you....u know, sometimes you will never know unless you give it a try....it's better to find out rather then wondering....in fact both of you are sngle, why bother right? lolz...good luck...hope all goes the way u wanted....

coz i care about his background...he is not well educated, he is poor, and he is not good looking...except he is a kind person. i dont care about those things if we are friends. i can still support him and be happy with him when we hang out. but if we become couple its gonna be different. i wont respect him coz i always think i am better than him in everything. and he wont make me proud if i introduce him to my friends and family. i know they would laugh at me. and that really matter to me. this is all what my mind is telling me.

his background matter to you that much? let put t it this way,, will you be happy being with someone who is rich but is not always there when you needed him or you're not happy most of the time?

its sad but it's true that his background does matter to me that much! it had happended to me once 2 years ago. my ex-bf (who has the similar background as the one i am talking about) really loved me and did everything to make me happy but it never seem to be enough. i made him study hard to be at the same level as me, i made him change his hair sytyle and bought him clothes and everything to suit my taste, to make him become Mr Right of my dream...but no matter how hard he (and I) tried to change his image, i still wasn't happy because i realized i did everything just for my taste, i didn't love him i just love myself the most. it was so selfish and cruel...now i dont want thing like that to happen again...i am gonna hurrt one more person....

To what I’ve been told, and no offense, but you just want attention. I don’t know what kind of background you’re from, but hey you should not let his background get in the way. Everyone have something to .. This is just now; the future is still lay ahead of you and you may never know…what if it would be different as time goes by?

thanks a lot Kuriouz_thao i see my problem now