... any one here please help me... im so confuse and dont know what to do.. i really need help....
here is my story... me and my bf we was dating for 4 months already... before we used to be friends for 3 years, we was good friends... we could talked on the phone for whole night, we could talk about every thing and every things was really good... then 4 months ago, me and him dated... cuz we both have feeling for each other but so scare to express that feeling for other... but finally we could be together... lúc đầu mọi chuyện cũng tốt lắm... he treated me really nice and i could feel the love from him... but i did a mistake that i cant never forgive myself.... when we dated about a month... me and my ex was get in contact.... we talked on the phone for several time... and once time i went out to eat with him... and i didnt let my ex know about it... i told him i went to eat with my family but my bf found out that i was lied to him... and he got hella mad at me... it make me feel so guilty and i know that i dont want to break up with him... so i have to xin lỗi và hưa" vơi" him rất nhiều... but since that i feel like he doesnt love me any more... and he never get jealous or care what im doing... whenever i told him that there a guy want to ask me for dinner... he seem like he doesnt care either....but some how i feeel like he still cares and loves me... whenver he go out with his friends... he called me at least 2 or 3 times... some time i got mad at him and didnt want to pick up the phone then he will keep calling until i picked it up.. and the first thing he ask was " did you go eat with some guys? i dont know exactly what he want or how he feels about me? some time i feel like he still care and love me... but some how i feel like since the day i went to eat with my ex ... all of his love gone too... whenever i asked him does he still care and love me... some time he said no and some time he said yes... i told him that he make me confuse and he said he knows... he told my friends that he loves me too but whenever i asked , he said he didnt say thạt.... im so confuse and dont know what to do... he still treat me good now but it seem like he never want to spent time with me... the only reason was he said he doesnt have time ,,, this is his final quarter for graduate... he will be graduate this june... he dont have time for me but whenever his friends ask him out for coffee or casino... he will go right away. but if i dont call him to ask him out, he would call and ask me but realy rare , or whenever i ask him to go with me to my friend birthday or party. he never go , or whenever he go to his friend party. i asked him to take me go with him , he would say no too. or even when i asked him to see my parrent. he told me waited until he graduate... i dont really know what to do... i love him but i cant stand the way he treat me right now... i want to spent time with him but he alway make an excuse for not seeing me... alway that he have to study... but i could see that he cũng có học bài... nhưng he ngủ nhiều hơn.... he rather sleep all day but dont want to see me... whenever i complaining about that. he said that i tried to control him , he want time for his own... some how i feeel like im reallyl worn out ,,, i cant stand it no more... but i cant break up either... i love him really much...dont want to loose him... but cant stand the wáy we are right now.... what should i do now... stay and wait until he finish school... then let see how he treat me after that or just break up because he doesnt love me anymore... i cant say or tell he loves me or not... seem like he loves me too but also seem like he doesnt love me either... im so confuse... im so depress and stress out... i dont know what to do... please help

Hi beyeudoi206,

looks like you are "confused, depressed, and stressed out" about your relationship because you seem to love him more than he does. Have a serious discussion with him, and tell him your feelings. Give him 1 more chance to see if he would change or not. If the same thing happens again, why don't you take some times off from him, and clear your mind first ? It would be hard at first, but once you are calm, you will know what you need to do, whether you want to keep him around or not. It can also prove your place in his heart. Be strong, sis.

Who knows, theo tình, tình chạy, bỏ tình tình theo

thanks for ur advise... i think i gonna give him from now until he finish his school because i know right now he so stress with his school and stuff... also he told me that he so stress out and afraid that he doesnt know what to do after graduate... so i dont want to give him more stress... i think im just wait for him till summer... if then he still be like this then i think that 's it... i have do any thing that i could do to keep this relationship.... anyway... thanks for ur advise... im really appreciate

Hi beyeudoi, you have to always remember the meaning of beyeudoi; i agree with nhelen, very good suggestion but honey you are in denial, don't be hard on yourself because of the guilt and don't try so hard, he í trying to punish you, playing with your feeling and mind; he í a very controlling person and full of retaliation; i can see that he is hurting, lost his trusts in you, confussing beetween loves & hates. After all, controlling, small minded person will never forgive or forrget anything other had done to them they will end up revenge even they already promised to forget or forgive. the relationship will even get worse if you guy in married; honey ì you ever think ò marry thí guy, your life will be terrible at the end. I hope you always be co beyeudoi. oki doki.

Totally agree with BYD and FP
Your relationship seems lack of communication. You guys really need to seat down and talk to work it out, if you think he got stress from his school and you dont wanna bundle him too much about this stuff then wait untill he's finish his school, there shouldn't be anymore excuses for both of you to avoid each other's true feeling.
Though, it was your big mistake at the first place but it doesn't mean he can treat you like that if he already forgave you....
Anyways, talk it out with him so you know where you two both stand in the relationship. There's really no point of getting stress day by day cuz of him, if he really likes you he will change this attitude.
Relationships always change, whether for good or for bad. It's not going to stay the same forever. When it does change, though, you just have to adjust to it.
Good luck!

me and my bf broke up already.... we broke up on friday... and since that he try to ignore me and run away from me ,,, he now graduated already but he cant find a job ,,, his family get mad at him and his mom get mad at him too for not loọking for a job.... he told me now he is so depress and stress.... some day he could sleep like 20 hours a day... wake up eat and then sleep again... no one could sleep like him and he never sleep like that... he said that he doesnt love me and want to break up ,,,, but i cant break up with him and some how i could feel that he loves me too and dont believe that he doesnt love me... but he alway denied that he loves me... but sometimes he said that he love me... im so confuse... but now i dont know why he try to ignore me... never pick up my phone.... he just told me to give him some times... but i dont know give him some time for what... i dont know what should i do... should i wait for him for few months... if he still ignore me and not looking for me then i will walk away or just dont wasting my time on waiting for him and just walk away right now... but i cant walk away... im still love him alot and still have a feeeling that he will come back to me some day... maybe this is the hard time for us.... if we could passed then we will happy forever.... please help me

I read your story and I knew you love him a lot. Give him a little bit more times and see what is happened? Do u live in Seattle?

zup... i live in seattle.